Lines worth Remembering


March 2016

The Lady, Her Lover, and Her Lord: Part One

I didn’t know much about the book and its author, Bishop T.D. Jakes, before I got my hands on it. It was lent to me by a dear woman which I fondly call “Mommey.” Mommey has not just been a friend and a colleague, she has been, since August last year, my mentor who has been helping me as I journey towards knowing myself and God more. This book she leant me because she felt that it would bless me, and on this she truly is right. Page after page offered words which have blessed me and has put so many things and questions in the right perspective – in God’s perspective

So, I’m sharing the lines which I have marked on the book either because it is true to me or because it has taught me something new or has made me rethink things.

May you be blessed as I have been blessed by the book and the message and truth it brings…


Although the book, as suggested by its title, appeals more to the ladies, men can also learn valuable things from it and is actually addressed in it, too…


Part 1: The Lady



“You must know that sometimes rejection is a blessing and not a curse.”


“Sometimes God delays relationships to give you a chance to heal as an individual.”


“While you are single, if you do not spend time finding wholeness and learning the art of being happy alone, you will marry out of fear and then years later awaken out of the comatose state of low self-esteem, only to recognize that you are a valuable entity whether there is a man around you or not.”


“It is the uncertainty of the future that causes the heart of men to seek a God who can see where men’s frail eyes are too weak to venture.”


“The lines etched in her childhood will draw the wrinkles of her old age.”


“Somewhere, beneath all of our other goals, is the desire for someone to be our absolute, best, cross-your-heart-and-hope-to-die friend.”


“What we call as intimacy as adults is really allowing some other adult the privilege to see the child we hide in adult flesh.”


“It is dangerous to allow others to know you better than yourself. Remember that knowledge is power!”


“It is the relationship with the manufacturer that gives you comfort in a crisis.”


“You can learn the dance steps and listen to the music, but if you don’t know you partner’s moves, you might as well be dancing alone.”


“But it is the quest to discover the self that drives one into the need to know Him, for only through God can we know all that we are.”


“How can you know the adult I am until you have touched the child I was?”


“Perched behind an older frame lies a child who is still the same.”


“The child in you needs to know your Father!”


“You are safe from pain, safe from anyone hurting you, but you are alone, empty and untouched… You are quarantined by pain and alienated by secret struggles.”


“It isn’t always that there is no one reaching after you. It may be that there are so many layers to unwrap that they are touching only the outer surface of the covering you have hidden in for years.”


“No one can change their yesterdays, no matter how terrible they may have been. Update your life. This is now, not then.”


“Fulfilment is not always a matter of income. It means a lot when you can lie down at night and know that what you did today made a difference is someone’s life.”


“That same spot where you cry and moan is where you can bring honor and healing to those who are touched with the same pain.”


“Wouldn’t it be great to enter into a relationship without being so thirsty for love that you couldn’t trust your own discernment?”


“You can know the woman you hold, only when you have touched the child she was.”


“Christ is not just the God of the welfare mother. He is the God of everyone – rich and poor alike.”


“It’s about the woman’s destiny, not her origin.”


“A woman of excellence knows what she deserves and will work tirelessly to attain it. Do not be discouraged if you have failed or fallen in the past. Excellence is not based on past performance. It is a title given to someone who persisted and rose above her calamities.”


“It is the memory of where she was that gives her the strength to arise and keep driving.”


“You can suppress who you are but you cannot change who you are.”


“You will never fulfil your destiny dressed in someone else’s clothes.”


“Liberation begins when you are free to be yourself and recognize that the strength of the woman is different but no lesser than the strength of a man.”


“Women can go further and achieve more and still be feminine.”


“But beneath the straight-lined suits and hard-as-nails exterior, can you hear the cried within the hearts of many women who wish life would afford them, once again, the luxury of being pampered by gentlemen who think them far too exquisite to be exposed to rowdy conversations and boisterous communications?”


“But the Bible warns her to submit through marriage to one man, and not because of his gender, but because of his position of covering and protection… She should accept the invitation only when she feels she has found the one who has the capacity to love as Christ loved the church.”


“Though she was created last, she was in no way an afterthought.”


“Love is far better with His approval than it would ever be without it.”


“It never works when a woman marries a man thinking that her presence is required to mend him. If he is broken when she meets him, he will not be fixed when she marries him.”


“We know we need to talk, but what we do not know is that men and women speak in different tongues.”


“It cannot be done without prayer. It cannot be done without God. Perhaps that is how he meant for life to be: completely unattainable without Him. Perhaps He knew that if we could successfully navigate it without Him, we would become so engrossed in what He gave us that we would eventually forget the one who gave it to us in the first place.”


“If your cup is overflowing, ask Him to be your saucer and catch what you are letting slip.”


“It is important that you say to Him, “Lord, I need you!”


“You must not become such a workhorse that you cease to be a person.”


“God sets boundaries for the sea, so you know He sets boundaries for you as His daughters.”


“…all those roles are things you do, not who you are.”


“Do not become angry or disappointed because those around you continue to place more and more weight on you. It is your responsibility to say when you have had enough.”


“It is helpful to direct those you love to an endless source rather than being that endless source.”


“The Godly woman is a star. She is a star that will shine in the night.”


“But you must make a fresh start and see yourself as special. If you do not, history will just repeat itself.”


“It is my prayer that your past does not harden you.”


“Do not allow them to rob you of the gleam in your eye and the hope in your heart.”


“No one can pump life through a broken heart.”


“Life is still worth living to all who believe.”


“Initially you may have to protect your heart and plant your trust and hope in God.”


“Hide your heart in Him.”


“Guard your heart but do not hide your face. God is not through with you. He has a plan for you.”


“He had a specific role that only you can play. Refuse to forfeit His plan just because of yoru pain.”


“For homes cannot be bought; they must be created.”


“It is dangerous to receive counsel from the wrong people.”


“Somewhere in your life, someone said hurtful things that got lodged in your spirit. I tell you again, turn to the word of God.”


“It is in the crises of life that a lady herself begins to realize the magnitude of her own creativity.”


“If you do not know what you have, you will not know when you lose it.”


“One of the worst things a man can be is lazy.”


“We must remember that when we try to satisfy ourselves in a way that is forbidden by God, in the end we only do ourselves harm.”


“Let your eyes help you see, but don’t let externals blind you.”


“Being appreciated is about gratitude and worth. Acknowledgment is a standing ovation,a  pat on the back, strokes to the ego.”


“Wanting acknowledgment is not bad in and of itself. But when in guides your actions, when it becomes a substitute for acting from the heart, you can make some very wring decisions.”


“Keep up the good work, but be careful that your pride doesn’t make you fall.”


“Be careful whom you allow to touch your life, for you are holy and  a treasure beyond compare.”


Suzanne’s Diary for Nicholas

What would be more fitting than to use lines from my favorite book to make up my very first entry for this blog. Let me tell you a short story of how I met Suzanne’s Diary…

I was a junior in college. We were at a room where we were asked to wait for our turn on the mock job interview. We were talking about books until we reached those which would truly leave you crying. It was then when Cheri mentioned about Suzanne’s. She although she already gave us the synopsis of the book, I asked her to lend it to me so I can read it. Because I was already spoiled, I didn’t expect to cry anymore; I knew of the tragic ending, I knew of the twists, but that definitely did not spare e from spilling buckets of tears and for gasping for air as I read through the difficult and painful pages. From that point on, Suzanne’s Diary Nicholas has officially become one of my all-time favorite books. In fact, I have read it four times, as of the moment. No matter how familiar I get with the words and the plot, I never seem to get too familiar with the emotions that it brings to me.


Author: James Patterson

“He made her feel at peace with herself, completed her circle, did something that was good and right. No one else had ever made her feel that way before. Completely, blissfully at peace.”

“Imagine life is a game in which you are juggling five balls. The balls are called work, family, health, friends, and integrity. And you’re keeping all of them in the air. But one day you finally come to understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls — family, health, friends, integrity—are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered.”

“I was turning endlessly around and around like a hamster on a wheel in a tiny cage. My life was stretched to the limit, and something was bound to give. Unfortunately, it had been my heart.”

“After twenty years . . . what’s twenty minutes? Or fifty? And besides, you look beautiful, Suzanne. You’re worth the wait.”

“Hands to work, hearts to God.”

“Our eyes met and there was a flash of something bordering on the significant between us. Whatever it was, I liked it.”

“Good memories are like charms, Nicky.  Each is special. You collect them, one by one, until one day you look back and discover they make a long, colorful bracelet.”

“When it’s true, when it’s right, love can give you the kind of joy that you can’t get from any other experience.”

“We is always so much better than I.”

“But what we want most for you is love and that it will always surround you. It is a gift. If I
can, I will try to teach you how to receive such a gift. Because to be without love is to be without grace, what matters most in life.”

“I knew in my gut I shouldn’t have gone away. Now the best thing that could have happened to me has slipped through my fingers again.”

“Bad stuff does happen sometimes, Nicholas. Always remember that, but remember that you have to move on, somehow. You just pick your head up and stare at
something beautiful like the sky, or the ocean, and you move the hell on.”

“Love between two people can last a long time if the people love themselves some and are ready to give love to another person.”

“I feel that every day is an extraordinary gift. Just to be here, and especially to be with you.”

“Thank you, Suzanne. Thank you for this night, this dance, and most of all for this little boy. My whole world is right here, in this room. If I never had another thing, I would have everything.”

“But it has made me realize more than ever how vulnerable we are, how life can be like walking on a high wire. Falling seems a tiny misstep away.”

“One today is worth two tomorrows.”

“My life feels so connected to you. It seems impossible that something bad could happen to me now. But I guess that’s just the false sense of security that love gives.

“Life is such a miracle, a series of small miracles. It really is, if you learn how to look at it with the right perspective.”

“It’s about how good it can be if you find the right person. It’s about treasuring every moment with that special one. Every single millisecond.”

“I can’t begin to explain how lucky it is to find someone you can love that much and who, miracle of miracles, loves you that much back.”

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